If I Can’t Have You

220px-shawn_mendes_-_if_i_can27t_have_youEVERYTHING MEANS NOTHING IF I CAN’T HAVE YOU!

I love this song! Its a cute little ode to a love that’s lost, but in the early stage of being lost. This song is basically about being on a break or a new break up and then realizing that you truly love and want to be with that person but it also feels like understanding that its okay to love someone and know that its time to move on. I just also think that this is a great song and well written. While Shawn Mendes did record this song, we all know that Teddy Gieger (his trusty ghost writer) penned this song, and she wrote it around a time when she broke up with her Fiance.

Overall, the lyrics are simple and repetitive but this is a quality top 40 pop song. Happy Listening!

 

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Advice Questions – Ask Alex

Hey Everyone! I wanted to start doing a weekly advice segment where I get to answer some of your questions here on the blog. It would be an ASK ALEX segment where you fill out the form and I choose a question to answer or to give advice to. It would be anonymous! My friends tell me that I give great advice and I want to be able to help others too. Fill it out and let me know! It can be about anything:

  • Relationships
  • Spirituality
  • School
  • Career
  • Life
  • Food
  • Fitness
  • Fashion
  • Literature

Maybe Travelling Will Help?

Since my awful break up this year, I have really felt confined by the space and place I am in. I am finishing up my undergrad and about to start a masters, but I feel trapped in my environment. My goal and hope for the remainder to 2018, is to be able to free my soul through deep mediation and travel.

I want to travel and see new places and create new memories and experiences. If after I travel, I am still unable to be happy with everything in life, then I will determine that most of what I feel is internal and not environmental.

On my travel bucket-list I will be attempting to visit:

  • Spain
  • Ottawa, ON, Canada
  • USA
  • Colombia

Lets see if I actually make it and follow my travel tab to see me write about my experiences.

Never Dreamed You’d Leave in Summer

I was watching the TV show Scandal and this song started playing. At first, I listened to the song and I thought it was beautiful at first. Later, I added it to my Spotify playlist and really listened to it for the first time. This song has truly resonated with me in my heartbreak. I was brought to tears. You never think that someone will leave you when everything is good and nothing you say or ask can ever make them turn around and stay. You will question everything that went wrong and everything that you could have changed but that will never bring them back.

“Why didn’t you stay?”

I ask myself this question everyday. Why didn’t I stay at first and why didn’t he stay at the end. We can torture ourselves forever with these questions and try to find answers but that only stops our growth forward.

This song is the lyrical embodiment of heartbreak. Using the changes of the seasons to describe lost love is perfect. As we go through the changing seasons without the one we love we will learn new things about ourselves and our place in our relationship and be able to move forward and grow. Always move forward and never back and even if you move back, remember the sun will come out tomorrow and a new season will come and you will be just fine my dear.

I never dreamed you’d leave in summer, but now I find my love has gone away. Why didn’t you stay…

“Man’s Rejection is God’s Protection”

“Man’s rejection, is God’s protection”

This is a quote that I have been living by lately.

Last week, I was listening to an episode of the Lady Gang podcast featuring Jeannie Mai from The Real. As I was listening, she was discussing a lost opportunity years prior to her success and how that rejection allowed her to find something better and more fulfilling. This quote was enlightening to me and I began to think about all of the times when rejection has spawned an otherwise positive outcome for me.

For example, I had been working in the same seasonal job position from my mid teens into my early 20’s. For the first time in 6 years, I was blindsided when I got an email that stated that my services would not be needed for that upcoming summer. I became frantic and depressed. I took the first job that was offered to me because I was so nervous to be unemployed, even though it wasn’t related to my field. When I went to job orientation, I became suddenly depressed and I knew that it wasn’t for me. I went home and cried but then I suddenly woke up and decided to apply to every job opportunity so that I could focus on my career and not my loss. When I opened my email, the company that I had previously interned at had a position open for me and I jumped at it! I have been there now for 3 years, working in my field of study and loving it.

The rejection in this case was my protection as it allowed me to grow in my career instead of basking in my comfort.

I think about my break up with my ex as well. His rejection was my protection. His rejection allowed me to self reflect and work on the parts of myself that weren’t so great. It also allowed me to learn that self love is the most important factor in life and that we can achieve this through a belief that we have the power to do all things because of a higher power (Call it God or not). I began to believe in the universe and this manifested into me believing in myself. I began to love the others around me more. Mostly, I learned to let go of people and negative situations that no longer served me.

I also learned what I did and didn’t want in a man so that hopefully I will get the chance to get love right in the future.

These were lessons I had to learn.

So, the next time you feel that getting declined for something is the worst thing in the world, always remember this: Man’s rejection is God’s Protection. You won’t see it right away, but you will soon see it manifest into a different and better opportunity.

Some articles:

http://theprayingwoman.com/sometimes-rejection-is-gods-protection/

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/maddisen-k-krown/coping-with-rejection_b_2586145.html

Day 7: Next

“Your next blessing depends on what you leave behind”

Sometimes it is challenging to see that you need to leave something or someone that is so important to you behind in order to see growth in your life. Sometimes, in order to see these changes or personal growth, we do have to leave behind the things and people that no longer serve us. The minute that we release this into the universe, we are able to envision a different future and outcome for ourselves. This will leave us open to discovering our next blessing in any form by which it comes. Leave behind the past in order to be blessed in the future. Honour and work on  yourself in the present.

Day 1: Stormy Weather

“Spiritual growth is being aware when there is a storm happening inside of you, you still remain prayful as it passes by” – Sprinkle of Jesus

Follow me on my Sprinkle of Jesus journey for the month of February. Everyday, I will write out the quote that is sent to me and I will explain its relevance to me at this time in my life.

The storm in me is currently that I am lacking self love and I am overthinking damaging things that were said to me, which has caused my mental health to deteriorate. I need to learn to reach out to God more than I have been in order to find peace within. I have to continue to pray in order to get through this time as my faith and my strength will guide me through.